Books on Women/Gender

The Moment of Lift (5*)by Melinda Gates (a powerful book on how lifting women lifts society as a whole. It makes many good and referenced arguments about the value of equality and women’s rights, across socioeconomic status)

Fierce Self-Compassion (5*) by Kristin Neff (this book is a follow up to Self-Compassion by the founder of the training and movements. It is specifically focusing on women and the need to bring out our fierce side in harmony with our healing side. Tremendously powerful and insightful book for women. I encountered Self-Compassion through the Compassion Cultivation Training and found it one of the most helpful parts of that journey. When timings can align, I hope to complete Neff’s Mindful Self Compassion program)

You Just Don’t Understand:  Women and Men in Conversation (4*) by Deborah Tannen (a classic in the difference in gender communication, a bit dated as I used this at Stanford, but still relevant as unfortunately not too many things have changed)

That’s Not What I Meant:  How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships (5*) by Deborah Tannen (this book was a paradigm shift for me in an earlier relationship and I find particularly helpful in close/intimate conversation improvement).  I have recommended this one to a few people who have found it helpful.

Talking from 9 to 5:  Women and Men in Workplace, Language, Sex and Power (4*) by Deborah Tannen (another classic from my Stanford days and required reading for Global Project Coordination, while a bit dated, still quite relevant today)

Why Do So Many Incompetent Men Become Leaders? (and How to Fix It) (5*) by Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic (this book is extremely well researched and referenced, and makes a compelling argument for a softer, more collaborative style of leadership that often used by females)

Becoming (5*) by Michelle Obama (this will also appear under Race, as it is an inspiring and insightful story both under race and gender topics, with a first hand account from Michelle Obama, President Obama’s wife, in finding her own place while facing significant adversity.  I particularly admire her class in rising above considerable opposition and even hatred and find this truly inspirational)

Road to Power:  How GM’s Mary Barra Shattered the Glass Ceiling (4*) by Laura Colby (this book was significant for me as I benefitted from the same policies and efforts at GM that paved the path for Mary.  While senior executive life ended up not being my own goal, I think a lot of this book for pointing out the need for filling a pipeline of qualified women and other minorities.  Without such specific actions and policies, it doesn’t happen organically)

Know My Name (5*) by Chanel Miller (the infamous Stanford rape touched me on many levels, of course being a women who studied at Stanford, but also the saving by Swedish students.  This is an important book to understand white male privilege and power, why many were more disturbed by interruption to a swimmer’s career, than that he raped a woman, and also why so few rapes are actually reported.  This was a painful and disturbing read, but necessary)

Brotopia:  Breaking Up the Boys’ Club of Silicon Valley  (5*) by Emily Chang (another book that touches me quite personally as I see this as my own path not taken, when I chose to stay with Delphi and move to Sweden after my Stanford degree, rather than stay in Silicon Valley.  It exposes the darker side of computer science and many young companies, particularly in the degradation and dehumanisation of women)

A Woman of No Importance (5*) by Sonia Purnell (a fantastic story of a lesser known WWII hero who shows what strength and capability lies within women)

Daring Greatly (5*) by Brené Brown (I’ll also put this book under General Inspiration, as it is not specifically for women, but I put it here as well because I think it is specifically needed for women to help us overcome our need for perfection, or duktig flicka (Swedish).  This book helped me at a time when I was insecure but needed a push to be able and step up and lead with what I am capable of)

Nice Girls (Still) Don’t Get the Corner Office (3*) by Lois P Frankel (while I don’t completely agree with this book, as I prefer to be and lead from an authentic self rather than acting a certain way, it has relevant points in regards to bias in business towards what is typically male behaviour)

Warrior Goddess Training:  Become the Woman You Are Meant to Be (4*) by Heatherash Amara (at times this book became a bit weird for me, but overall I think there was a good message in learning to accept and love ourselves, while philosophically in line with psychological research, presented in a different way)

That’s What She Said:  What Men (and Women) Need to Know About Working Together (4*) by Joanne Lipman (realistic recent discussion about challenges genders face in the office)

I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) (3*) by Brené Brown (addressing the issue of setting perfection, or duktig flicka (in Swedish), as an unreasonable goal and how to recover from it)

Lean In:  Women, Work, and the Will to Lead (3*) by Sheryl Sandberg (in some ways this book frustrates me because it comes at the issue somewhat putting blame on women, rather than the structural issues, but there is some value still to the book)

Men Explain Things to Me (3*) by Rebecca Solnit (while a bit of a rant at times rather than detached analysis, there is unfortunately a basis for the ranting)

Dear Madam President (3*) by Jennifer Palmieri (from Hillary Clinton’s communication director, an appeal to the women who will run the world with perspective from the lost campaign against Donald Trump)

Kamala’s Way (3*) by Dan Morain (a biography of America’s first woman and African-American Vice President. The book was factual but lacked soul)

I Am Malala (4*) by Malala Yousafzai (the important story of a Pakistani girl’s quest for education under the Taliban. It is a very important story, but at times the book itself was a bit disorganised and hard to read. It is almost like the story was told verbally and written down directly without editing.)

Pearls of Wisdom (3*) by Barbara Bush (the book contained some good advice, but I didn’t like the structure of the way it was written with the various bits and pieces compiled from all over. I would have appreciated the insights more grouped into cohesive messages)